Separated

i just wanna know WTF is separated? What does it mean? Does it mean you get to have the privilage of spending time with me when YOU want to, but what? i just dont know...but the bigger question i guess is why am i allowing this? Why don't i change something if i dont like it? UGH....so many questions and even though i feel like i have the right answer the fear keeps me from acting. I will get nowhere this way...